The Holidays can be difficult..when you are hurting on the inside

What can you do when when the Holidays are not so happy for you? You are probably like me in that we have experienced both happiness and sadness during this festive time through the years. Sometimes we can’t wait for Thanksgiving and Christmas to get here and other times we struggle just to get through them because other difficult circumstances going on in our lives. Here are some helpful tips I have discovered to keep in mind that can help…


Charles Dickens, the author of the Christmas classic “A Christmas Carol”, gave this advice …”Reflect upon your present blessings, of which everyone has many, not your misfortunes, of which everyone has some.” We need to be thankful for what we do have and not be obsessed in our thinking about what we don’t have right now. That is such a key to maintaining a good attitude.


I really like a song that that has been popular as we have been experiencing and going through the Covid 19 Pandemic. It is “Do What You Can” recorded by Bon Jovi and Jennifer Neetles. The chorus lyrics are: “Around here, we bend but we don’t break. Down here, we all understand when you can’t do what you do…you do as you can.” That is a good message for us today. We all need what we can each day, to take care of ourselves and help others.


That is what happen that very first Christmas when Jesus was born in Bethlehem. God sent His Son, Jesus to be our Savior. We need Him today just as much as the world needed Him then. Jesus was also called “Emanuel” which means “God is with us.” My favorite verse in the Bible is Psalm 68:13 which states “Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior, who daily bears our burdens.” Think about that for a moment. God is not only our Savior, He also wants to help us every single day. What a wonderful gift that God has given young me, the gift of His presence in our daily lives. Now that is something to be happy about and to celebrate, especially this season…

Don’t forget the Friendship Factor during the Pandemic

It has been increasingly obvious during the COVID-19 Pandemic that there are certain priorities we have found that are vital in our daily lives. Maintaining good physical, mental and spiritual health is paramount. In addition to our relationship with our family, our relationship with friends is  very important too. I firmly believe that God places good friends at different ages and stages in our lives. It is another way that He cares for us. Here are some great thoughts that highlight the importance of friendship..

“Friends love through all kinds of weather and families stick together in all kinds of trouble.” – Proverbs 17:17 (MSG)

“A good friend will stick with you until you are unstuck.” – Winnie The Pooh

“Real friends are those who, when you have made a fool of yourself, don’t feel you have done a permanent job.” – Erwin T. Randall

“Friends come and go, but a true friend sticks with you like family.” – Proverbs 18:24 (MSG)

“The fellowship of true friends who can hear you out, share your joys, help carry your burdens, and correctly counsel you is priceless.” – Ezra Taft Benson

May I suggest, that we need to be better friends… in order to have good friends. We need to stay in contact with them and encourage them, and pray for them. At the same time, do not be too demanding and insensitive to their other responsibilities, needs, and schedules. Also, just listening to them instead of just doing all the talking ourselves can be helpful. It is really difficult to to visit people in person right now, but you can write a note or send a text or email when you think about them.. One of the great assets you and I can have to continue to enrich our lives is… good friends. Let us not take our friends for granted.